You have to plan ahead to develop a meaningful relationship with a mom. You also need to give her adequate time to find childcare and free time.
It is imperative to be prepared to adapt to unexpected circumstances: kids get sick, babysitters flake, school events pop up, and moms get tired and might not want to go out.
Starting Off Getting to Know the Child Getting Serious Community Q&A Dating someone with a child from a previous relationship can be channeling.
The child will always come first and you need to learn to respect and support this.
All of his kids are involved in sports and church activities. Turns out that such a demanding schedule, coupled with the spontaneous responsibilities of parenthood, are not all that conducive to a potential relationship.
Virtually every day and every weekend, somebody has a practice, a rehearsal, or a game — and he’s at just about every single one. We talked on the phone often, but that’s all we ever managed to do. Every planned date was postponed because of a basketball tournament, somebody’s tummy ache, no one to watch the kids on his weekend, or scheming baby mama antics.
Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share.
She later stated, “Me having a daughter isn’t a compromise and anyone I’m going to spend my life with is going to see it as the biggest bonus ever.” Okay, the word “compromise” isn’t the most warm and cozy thing to say in this context; a parent doesn’t want to hear anything less than glowing applause about his or her little dumpling, even if the pookie doo cusses them out on a regular basis.
I say “getting to know” because our brief tango didn’t get very far for a few reasons … I was wary from the beginning with “Chris.” Two baby mamas, and two boys and two girls.
That’s a lot of people to factor in when trying to learn about one person.
And I include the baby mamas because they are very much a part of the equation.